What are we looking for? Well, pretty much we're looking for a good time (in and out of the bedroom) with new friends that we don't really need to hide this part of our life from. We really like to go dancing, but we haven't really found anywhere in Central Illinois to pull it off. When we play we play safe, in this world you can't be anything else, ya know? No means no, and heck, most times 'uh' means no, too. We're non-pushy, laid back, but can be ready to go from zero to nek in no-time flat. We prefer same room, same bed play, definitely to start, and well heck, definitely! We both really enjoy pleasuring our partners and go above and beyond to make sure everyone's having a good time. We're not so much into the S&M stuff, but we both can play rougher than normal if everyone's fine with that. We are non-judgmental, compassionate, and believe that if you're not having fun, you shouldn't be there. We enjoy 3somes and 4somes very much, and have had a few moresomes that have a fond place in our undie's! How about you?

My Ideal Person Our ideal persons won't be afraid of new experiences, won't be hesitant to express interest, and will understand that sometimes it's just not there. It might be us, it might be you, it might be a misalignment of the stars and the moon. Our ideal person(s) will recognize the fastest way to turn her off is to expect something. And the fastest way to turn him off is to turn her off.

Our ideal match won't be looking for notches, as we're not fond of being them. Don't get us wrong, there's nothing wrong with notches, nor with those who hunt them, it's just not what we're about anymore.

Our ideal match will be secure in themselves, their relationship, and their lives. If you're a couple you don't need to be together forever like us (20 years and counting), but you do need to be for sure.

Our ideal match isn't in the lifestyle, because we're not. We like to think of this as a "playstyle," and as such we recognize it's not for everyone, and our matches will see that too. We'd rather have an unbelievable, phenomenal, awesome time once a year than 52 meet-n-fucks. Our ideal match will know how to get themselves, and their partner off, and like us, thinks sex together is a great thing all on it's own, and when it's shared it's a different kind of great.

So, his balls are in your court, so to speak... tell us what your ideal person or match is, what you're looking for, and what you want.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Spanking, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Blindfolds, Leather, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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