....with one caveat Here's the caveat: I will be upfront and say that I have HSV2 (herpes), so whoever might be considering a reply must be comfortable with that or in a similar situation. If that might be you then buckle up and read on. I am a kinda gay/kinda straight/kinda bi woman, seeking another companion (no gender preference) for romantic endeavors and any variations in-between. In a nutshell, I am open to something sexual with no strings attached. However, I would much prefer something more serious and LTR oriented. I would like a mature and open agreement, one based on mutual respect (and of course, physical attraction). Perality wise, I am outgoing, spontaneous, responsible, silly and very inquisitive. I am loads of fun and extremely positive. I have no ren and am currently single. I'm 29 with curly (newly) blonde hair, and am told I am in good shape and cute. Yes, I'm a bit of an contradiction. I can be introspective and "deep," but I also love a good party and dancing. I'm driven, ambitions and competitive, sometimes too much so. (More about that below). I also meditate, practice yoga, read voraciously and love a quiet walk in the woods. I love music, theater, literature, the arts. I love the sensuality of a massage and I work out regularly (swimming, hiking) when I can. I have my own car, my own apartment, and a good job. I do not fail at the basics of life. I don't smoke (anything). I drink, but not much. I sometimes say inappropriate things at inappropriate times, mostly to laughter from the people around me. I watch bad TV, but not a lot of it. I can spell, and I can also differentiate between there, their, and they're. I like video games, fishing, and other assorted activities, but I tend to be a homebody. Sports are not my thing. I have coordination, but no fierce desire to get dirty. If I'm going to play games, I'd rather they be fun for those of us without athletic ability. Board games, party games, video games, erotic games... hehe. So... I'm really interested in kink. It's something I've dabbled with in the past and tried to explore in depth in a previous relationship. Not just the handcuffs/rope kind of kink (although that works too...). I'm pretty sure I need the debasement and humiliation. Which, to me, means forcing me to do things (play doctor, use toys, nap me, force yourself on me, punish me, train me, etc...) And in my limited experience, I've really enjoyed it, REALLY enjoyed it. The caveat to that is that my partner needs to WANT me to do those things, needs to enjoy making me do those things. (An alternate wording of this would be along the lines of "Make me a dirty and then love me for being one.") And my ex just didn't. Really - is it so hard to figure out what to do to a naked girl tied to your bed? So I tend to think that the losing control aspect of BDSM is, for me, the only way that I can give up my control-freak ways, and I really, really need to be able to do that much more often than I do. I am so damn tired of being the responsible one all of the time. I think that I need someone who is strong enough to control me, otherwise I lose respect for them. I just don't know any other way (than sexually) for someone to control me. I don't want to be controlled all the time (and yes, I can even switch things up a bit on occasion, if you catch my drift), I just want to trust that someone else can take care of things, and take charge. I know this was a bit of a tome so thanks for your time, if nothing else :) Oh, and if this post speaks to you in a deeper way, feel free to expand upon that thought. I'm open to possibilities. Unless (and this is going to sound bitchy) you're looking for a one nighter, fwb, or have self-proclaimed yourself a 'master.' If I'm not what you're looking for, no problem. If, however, you do choose to reply, put something quirky in the title so I know you've read this far And please, no simplistically vulgar messages though. I don't mind appropriately perverted. So, send me a photo, or a note, or tell me a story, or make me curious, or make me laugh, or make me hot, or tell me a secret.... if you touch a nerve I will reply. It might eventually develop into something, who knows where life will take us. PS: I am a bit reluctant to respond to winks/hotlists/email without some indication that my condition has been noted. The whole rea to be so open in the profile is to avoid those awkward talks afterall.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Hard Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Cross Dressing, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Leather

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