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Figuring out what I want
Posted:Dec 10, 2018 7:30 pm
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2018 5:35 pm
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Without getting into a long explanation, my suppressed libido was recently reactivated. Hence my making an account here and elsewhere.

I reactivated an hookup/relationship. Reactivated fantasies. Months later, I've figured out and accepted that they were just that... fantasies. Which, btw, totally ok with with this person! But, now my appetite has been awakened.

I've been celibate for . Almost a decade. Partially due to getting older and gaining weight but THOSE were also due to a personal tragedy. So, now ready to go back to my true self and figuring out how to do that. Especially with those insecurities still lingering.

I don't have any objective with this post. Just needed to say it.
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Fiction BDSM Erotica
Posted:Dec 9, 2018 6:37 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2018 5:47 pm
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Overall, it sucks. It's fantasy. It's SO unreal. Even the classics. The Sleeping Beauty trilogy. Story of O. The Marketplace series. SOOOO erotic. But, complete fantasy. (FWIW, I'm not even going to touch on 50 Shades here. That deserves its own dissertation.)

I'm making a *sweeping* generalization here next. I know this isn't true of literally all women. I know that it's not NOT true of literally all men. Having said that... I think that women, more than men, put themselves in the place of the women when reading erotica. Maybe not even the majority of women. Just more women than men do this.

I do this. I have a hard time losing myself into erotica if some part of it is super against what I'd be into or would do. I've only recently realized this. BUT, I also more recently realized that I can ignore the parts that are not turn ons for me or are not what I would choose, IF the rest is extremely close to what I like or what I'd choose. It's a balance even if not a conscious one.

I've recently been enjoying the Masters of the Shadowlands series. Yes, I know, they are still unrealistic. I don't know if these were written before or after the 50 Shades series, but the idea that Doms have to be wealthy is a turn off for me. And it's not realistic to hope to encounter an "ideal" experienced Dom who is willing to and able to read a new sub. But, it's still not the same kind of unrealistic as, say, The Story of O.

I never read traditional romance books. Maybe those are like this, too. Extremely unlikely, but not science fiction level of unreal.

I hope I can find even more realistic, more LIKELY to happen stories.
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The scent of arousal
Posted:Dec 1, 2018 10:39 pm
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2018 6:24 pm
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Another form of exhibitionism.

Yes, I know a LOT of guys don't like what a perfectly healthy pussy smells like. This post is not for you. I'm not about to shame anyone for what they like or don't like. Just being upfront.

Apparently, I have a particularly potent scent when aroused. I might be a bit narcissistic -- I enjoy the scent. I've had a few partners who have commented on it. Luckily, positively. They told me that they could always tell when I was truly aroused because they could smell it.

It's a sensitive subject for me because of how SO many people object to the scent or taste or look of a woman's pussy. (And I am talking about when there's no infection or something similar going on, just to be clear.)

For those who aren't grossed out, though? Just like my previous post about being naked under my clothes... I wonder if anyone can sense that I'm turned on when I am which is a lot of the time. I figure if I can smell it than others can.

Has anyone ever noticed that someone near them is extremely aroused just by the scent?
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Completely naked. Underneath my clothes.
Posted:Nov 29, 2018 7:06 pm
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2018 6:22 pm
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Wondering if anyone is noticing.

Noticing no panties is unlikely in the middle of frigid weather, but I still enjoy the feeling.

No bra with 36DDDs (36E in UK sizes) is a little more obvious, but I'm unsure HOW obvious. I love that my nipples poke through everything but the most padded or lined bras or thick clothing in tops. It's the added jiggle when not wearing a bra that I wonder if others notice.

Completely naked. Underneath my clothes.
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I really want to fuck
Posted:Nov 27, 2018 7:28 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2018 5:46 pm
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It was SO much easier when I was just discovering that there were guys who found me hot.

Most of my pictures are from "back then." Not knowing I was at all attractive is worthy of it's own blog post, but I did finally get that.

And now? so self-conscious and self-critical. That's very different than how I was before I figured out some guys found me hot in my 30rs. Back then, I kind of just didn't think about it? It didn't occur to me that anyone would be attracted to me until I realized that wasn't true.

Now it's an active worry.

I've actually had people suggest to me and have considered on my own writing about just HOW differently a woman is treated when she's "average," "hot," and "older and overweight." I've experienced all of those and it's kind of mind-blowing how people, both men and women, treat you so much differently.

Thinking out loud, maybe that's part of why I like writing here so much? Guys don't notice me anymore IRL. But, what if they knew what was going on in my mind? How turned on I all the time? How looking at them and wondering what their cocks look like and wondering what *their* sex drive is like? Here I can just say all of that. No one has to guess or wonder.

Just thinking out loud.
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Labels. Again.
Posted:Nov 24, 2018 4:43 am
Last Updated:Nov 26, 2018 5:23 pm
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I just read How to be a Healthy and Happy Submissive: A Practical Guide to Making Your Fantasies a Reality which I thought was pretty good. Not ground breaking or anything. Lots of what's a;already been said elsewhere, but it was good info all in one place.

What I especially appreciated was the reassurance that there's no such thing as a REAL Dom or a REAL sub. Even though I knew that.

I've been having a lot of difficulty labeling myself as a submissive.

This book gave me a kind of understanding. I'm not submissive to just anyone. At all.

But, I am naturally, innately, submissive to those I love and respect. Remove the sexual aspect and, yes, I'm really submissive to a few family members and friends. It's just how I am. It's innate.

To anyone else? Fuck off!

I really appreciate reading someone else explaining this. I'm NOT crazy. I'm not abnormal or unusual. This all makes sense.
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Submission
Posted:Nov 19, 2018 8:29 pm
Last Updated:Nov 22, 2018 6:12 pm
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I've been thinking a lot about the words submissive and submission. I've been interested in the broad category of BDSM my entire life. I've identified with the submissive side of fictional stories. But, I resist using those words to describe myself and I've only recently been trying to figure out why.

I like being submissive to someone I admire, respect, love, or attracted to. Even getting out of the sex side of it, I WANT to serve that person. I WANT to make them happy. I love doing nice things for them even at my own expense in any way. BUT... if they demanded or even asked it of me? That makes me immediately resist or not want to. I really do intend this essay or post to be about sexual BDSM, but non-sexual anecdotes seem to represent it best.

I feel the way that D/s people describe they feel when I do something nice for, say, a boyfriend. Even more so if it's in any way not just simply convenient for me. I love how that feels. Whether he acknowledges it or not. But that immediately changes if this theoretical person demanded that same action from me. That would turn on a resistance in me and I'd stop doing whatever that thing is. You can't *require* me to be subservient.

stil trying to figure this out. I suspect what I just wrote might provoke reactions in people who identify as either submissive or as dominant. Please know that not in any way trying to judge how you live your lives or how you see these words. just thinking out loud.

I feel confident that naturally submissive but I don't know how to reconcile that with instantly rebelling if asked or told to BE submissive.

I know how incredibly happy and pleased and satisfied I'd be if I were in a relationship where I acted in a submissive way... the kind that's described in fiction and even "The one TWUE way" types of non-fiction. But it seems like most guys that would appreciate that also want to demand it. And if someone demands it of me? Fuck them. a fully independent, fully feminist, fully making-my-own-fucking-choices person.

FWIW, writing out this stuff AND sharing it helps me a lot to figure out sutff in my own mind. So, since this is really on my mind as of late, expect more on tihs topic.

I welcome any feedback that might lead to dialogue on this, too.
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Submission
Posted:Nov 19, 2018 7:54 pm
Last Updated:Dec 18, 2018 11:14 am
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I've been thinking a lot about the words submissive and submission. I've been interested in the broad category of BDSM my entire life. I've identified with the submissive side of fictional stories. But, I resist using those words to describe myself and I've only recently been trying to figure out why.

I like being submissive to someone I admire, respect, love, or attracted to. Even getting out of the sex side of it, I WANT to serve that person. I WANT to make them happy. I love doing nice things for them even at my own expense in any way. BUT... if they demanded or even asked it of me? That makes me immediately resist or not want to. I really do intend this essay or post to be about sexual BDSM, but non-sexual anecdotes seem to represent it best.

I feel the way that D/s people describe they feel when I do something nice for, say, a boyfriend. Even more so if it's in any way not just simply convenient for me. I love how that feels. Whether he acknowledges it or not. But that immediately changes if this theoretical person demanded that same action from me. That would turn on a resistance in me and I'd stop doing whatever that thing is. You can't *require* me to be subservient.

stil trying to figure this out. I suspect what I just wrote might provoke reactions in people who identify as either submissive or as dominant. Please know that not in any way trying to judge how you live your lives or how you see these words. just thinking out loud.

I feel confident that naturally submissive but I don't know how to reconcile that with instantly rebelling if asked or told to BE submissive.

I know how incredibly happy and pleased and satisfied I'd be if I were in a relationship where I acted in a submissive way... the kind that's described in fiction and even "The one TWUE way" types of non-fiction. But it seems like most guys that would appreciate that also want to demand it. And if someone demands it of me? Fuck them. a fully independent, fully feminist, fully making-my-own-fucking-choices person.

FWIW, writing out this stuff AND sharing it helps me a lot to figure out sutff in my own mind. So, since this is really on my mind as of late, expect more on tihs topic.

I welcome any feedback that might lead to dialogue on this, too.
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Change in goals
Posted:Nov 17, 2018 9:11 pm
Last Updated:Nov 19, 2018 6:16 pm
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So, over the last few months I've gotten back in touch with someone I met here about 12 years ago. Not sure what to call our relationship, but there is a relationship.

So... the only reason we met up that long ago was because he was attracted to my profile which isn't that different than it is now, so being a slut, being non-monogamous is a plus.

He keeps reassuring me that he still finds me sexy, but I still have the insecurities about having gained weight and having gotten older.

Not sure exactly what I'm trying to say here.

Still hesitant about going out and meeting strangers. No longer really looking for a long-term partner, BUT, I still don't really like one night stands. Long-term FWB or NSA. LOL.
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Yay my blog is back. +steps to be more active
Posted:Nov 15, 2018 8:55 pm
Last Updated:Nov 16, 2018 2:58 pm
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YAY!!!! My blog is back and hasnt disappeared entirely.

So, to continue blabbing my thoughts.

Ive been reconnecting with someone I met here back when I was actively chislut. And that has made me a LITTLE bit more confident about going out there and being the slut I once was.

So for anyone wondering about my progress towards moving towards reality. Its happening. Slowly. But its real.
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Yay my blog is back. +steps to be more active
Posted:Nov 14, 2018 7:18 pm
Last Updated:Nov 15, 2018 8:56 pm
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YAY!!!! My blog is back and hasn't disappeared entirely.

So, to continue blabbing my thoughts.

I've been reconnecting with someone I met here back when I was actively chislut. And that has made me a LITTLE bit more confident about going out there and being the slut I once was.

So for anyone wondering about my progress towards moving towards reality. It's happening. Slowly. But it's real.
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Test
Posted:Oct 18, 2018 7:30 pm
Last Updated:Dec 18, 2018 11:14 am
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Just testing to see what happened
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Slut challenges
Posted:Oct 18, 2018 7:04 pm
Last Updated:Nov 9, 2018 5:44 pm
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So, I've been INCREDIBLY horny the last few days. REALLY wanting to get back to being a .

And in indulging in my fantasies, I've come across the idea of challenges.

I make no promises whatsoever to do or even consider anything here, but if you could describe something that only a REAL would do.... what would it be?

FWIW: I have an absolute hard limit on involving anyone who doesn't want to be involved in any of my kinks.

But, other than that... give me suggestions. What would a true ... someone who wants to fuck and suck as many cocks as possible while also cumming as many times as physically possible without passing out... do to prove it?

As I said, not promising I WILL do any of the suggestions. a . Not a submissive. I just want ideas that will turn me on that I might not have thought of myself yet.
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