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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 3:07 pm
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And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

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On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

Toys r'us Request to see my toys__New toys

My kinks: [post 3985069]
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
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Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
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"I'm not your type"
Posted:Jul 16, 2019 2:20 pm
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 5:10 pm
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Yes I am extremely bored today, so posting twice, again.

"I'm not your type. But enjoy your search."

Why is it that most guys really don't like it when that is said to them in a message.
I know from 38 years of experience where I fall into "mans preferred type", plus it could be something in his profile that is off putting or not at all in the line as what I seek.
One HUGE les I learned was to stay away from conventionally attractive men, lol, not ding at all unfortunately.

On my one dating site and the kink site I don't have face photos on there but I do have well written profiles. The kink site obviously has a whole lot more info, photos kinks n stuffs on it, so I take any interest in me and messages to me with a grain of salt.
But the dating site profile with no face pic tends to get interest from all types of guy from the happy single to the bitterly divorced/separated, and all kinds of attractiveness except the mega hot guys but then they don't really need to reach first.

I know a few of you are going to say that you message everyone because you are looking for the experiences not the looks or don't want to miss on a potentially great experience. (Or something lame like that, that's what a couple of attractive guys told me when I said I'm definitely not thier type)

But with my experience I have learned to not bother meeting or even chatting on the dating site. 🙄
Pretty much if an attractive man is massaging me he's looking for a kink experience and sees me as fetish delivery per, or he's looking for an 'easy' hookup and someone of my status should/would be grateful for his attention. Lol

Anyhoo, I just had some dude/player/attractive fuckboy lose his shit at me because I declined chatting on the dating site.
How dare you flower! Turn down dick when you write about sex, kink, pleasure !!'
I am looking for someone that genuinely likes me, not looking for some emotionally closed off dude looking for easy sex.

And then,
Still bored and my mind is screaming for stimulating conversation. Maybe I should take an archaeology course or geology, maybe some more ethnobotany, or photography...
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Thats a new one...
Posted:Jul 16, 2019 8:19 am
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 3:09 pm
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On occasion my blog posts are banned, deleted, or even warranting a message from the dating site (recently divorced/separated men or mgtow/mra tend to not like some of my topics and report my dating site blogs)

On the vanilla site I have to watch how I approach dating and adult topics because of the mass amount of people (both men and women) that don't want to have conversations around sex, kink/bdsm, or they don't like erotic poetry. And i understand that to a point, because some people will post nudes, porn, plus the racist shit, so ya they need moderation on the posts.

Mind you, even on here I have to watch what I post because any talk of my fantasies gets complaints from men, seems the only fantasies you can share are about nsa/anonymous sex or fmf/ffm.

Anyway,
This sites word find tends to delete words like 'youn/ger men', 'like', 'at', 'that', 'and' and so on ... not just the words around moola, gf experience, ect.
(See if those words make it for two hrs on here)

..
Its been a meh week so far, though I did arrange a dinner at a cheap smorg place for kinksters just to get some socialization in. I doubt many will show, even the fuckboys may stay in because they are overfucked. Lol

Craving stimulating conversation that isn't about work or family or ndn politics.
My libido is coming back under control, had me worried for a bit there that it will come raging back. But yardwork is keeping me really busy, thank gawd.
I'm even worried about booking a massage to deal with the touch deprivation as it might awaken the beast.

But anyway... and then,
Its only Tuesday.
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Late sinday
Posted:Jul 14, 2019 10:05 pm
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 6:55 am
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It was a busy weekend in the badlands, plus I had to keep myself distracted because I had a set back with my libido control program.

We have a magpie and pigeon problem, and 2 wild cats, soo I've been working on a eradication program. Lol
Success so far.

As for my setback
Remember I was supposed to meet with the ex-casual, well things got weird and he somehow set off my ptsd. 🙄
Here I thought I was doing good, well at least alright with my dating issues. Apparently not.
I have just gotten soo tired of men using me for online play/sexting that it actually affects the way I interact nowadays. The fake promises to meet in real life but I have to send another photo/vid/sex gets old real fkn quick now.
Though it Seems men prefer digital to real life sex.
It took such a toll on my sexual confidence and self esteem that I just shut down all interest in meeting with that per when they flirt it up too much. Because in my experience they plan a date, do lots of work up to the date, like flirting, being fun, wanting sexting with photos/vids/words (yanno the usual), but they will lame cancel the date because he's already got what he wanted BUT he leaves me sexually frustrated and absolutely craving sex.
Why some men think that masturbation should be good enough I'll never understand. Same goes why they think its too much work to have actual sex instead they opt for online.
Believe me, its not just me that has experienced this from men.

But the ptsd came crashing back, it set off my porn/masturbation problem, then left me questioning my sexuality yet again. And I cancelled on the date before he could lame cancel on me (whether he was or not) I wasn't going to let him get me all hot n horny then leave me hanging.

So the end of the week was frustrating to say the least.

One I will find someone that enjoys sex and doesn't just for online play or sexting. Lol, I know, impossible to find.

But I will spend this week around people so I am not tempted to stream porn, or think about sex, and I will once again lay off the masturbation.
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Late sinday
Posted:Jul 14, 2019 10:01 pm
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 5:34 pm
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It was a busy weekend in the badlands, plus I had to keep myself distracted because I had a set back with my libido control program.

We have a magpie and pigeon problem, and 2 wild cats, soo I've been working on a eradication program. Lol
Success so far.

As for my setback
Remember I was supposed to meet with the ex-casual, well things got weird and he somehow set off my ptsd. 🙄
Here I thought I was doing good, well at least alright with my dating issues. Apparently not.
I have just gotten soo tired of men using me for online play/sexting that it actually affects the way I interact nowadays. The fake promises to meet in real life but I have to send another photo/vid/sex gets old real fkn quick now.
Though it Seems men prefer digital to real life sex.
It took such a toll on my sexual confidence and self esteem that I just shut down all interest in meeting with that per when they flirt it up too much. Because in my experience they plan a date, do lots of work up to the date, like flirting, being fun, wanting sexting with photos/vids/words (yanno the usual), but they will lame cancel the date because he's already got what he wanted BUT he leaves me sexually frustrated and absolutely craving sex.
Why some men think that masturbation should be good enough I'll never understand. Same goes why they think its too much work to have actual sex instead they opt for online.
Believe me, its not just me that has experienced this from men.

But the ptsd came crashing back, it set off my porn/masturbation problem, then left me questioning my sexuality yet again. And I cancelled on the date before he could lame cancel on me (whether he was or not) I wasn't going to let him get me all hot n horny then leave me hanging.

So the end of the week was frustrating to say the least.

One I will find someone that enjoys sex and doesn't just for online play or sexting. Lol, I know, impossible to find.

But I will spend this week around people so I am not tempted to stream porn, or think about sex, and I will once again lay off the masturbation.
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Friday and missed opportunities
Posted:Jul 12, 2019 4:30 pm
Last Updated:Jul 13, 2019 9:59 pm
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Yes I understand this isnt the site for fun, flirty, things,  

But do you ever have that moment where you think back a particular conversation with someone, and realize you "missed that moment" where you could have picked up on the obvious hints, suggestions, flirts, eye contact even! 
You could have taken the bait that was laid and just taken that next step and asked them for a drink. 


There was a time when I would easily ask them first, but when you are surrounded by married/attached men (and not all are open and upfront about the fact they are NOT available, shocking I know) it makes you a little gun shy. 
This is how I learned that its mainly attached men that will with women like me.  
Totally not fair to me, but I've learned to just ask other people about the guy or do some online looking first (faceybook or whatever). Takes all the spontaneity out of chatting up men. 

Occasionally if I'm unsure about his marital status/level of attachment, I will leave reall big signs that I am interested in grabbing a drink later or that I'm very much single. And if its crickets from him... if he doesn't make the first move now I just take it as a 'not interested' and I remove him from thought. Lol


But, sexy bloggers, 
Have you missed that opportunity? But only figured it out afterwards, or thought you may get another good opportunity at that time?

You know the one where the gate was left open but you didn't go through it. And you didnt seize that golden moment

It happens all the time with and messages because you can not tell the subtlety, nuanced body language ... humor and innuendo does not translate well in short form . 

So yes I'm asking about real life scenarios and experiences.
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Toys to androids
Posted:Jul 11, 2019 12:29 pm
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2019 12:29 pm
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I know most women don't want to admit to the lack of sex options (good, safe, sane potential sex options, not the random street level pub crawler), and of course the couples looking to spice up thier relationship - but the sex toy industry is pretty lucrative.
Men have all sorts of wonderful toys to pick from including the lifesize and lifelike sex dolls, and the strokers have come a long way.

I certainly have my favorite toys, and I had toys specifically the cam shows.(guys are such size queens always wanting to see the big cocks and not the average size ones...the shows with just the fingers and clit vibe had less viewers than when I brought out the 'ego crusher' (yes thats what the cam fans called the " lifelike dong)...anyway)


This is the next show favorite, as the ego crusher can only fit about 6.5 in due to its girth. Still, the one in the picture was one of my favorite dongs masturbating in private! As you can get a nice long stroke on it while riding it, or when its on the wall or other surface.

I have cut back on the different toys to masturbate with, pretty much stick with the fav clit vibe, unless I'm craving penetration then I have a thick 6" dong with a flight curve that I can easily squirt on that I will use in tandem with my clit vibe.
But its really not that super complicated to get me off, of course my mind needs to be in the game or you may as well be rubbing my elbow. Lol

I am in the market new toys and the robot sex doll came up in a discussion. Yes I would most definitely use it often if I had one. Lol.
Side note, I'm looking a flexible mannequin my rope bondage practice and a few friends already stated to me that I will most likely stick a dick on it and fuck it in between rope sessions. well of course I will! Lol. It would be pretty and a change from my other creative positions that I have used over the years when I would be craving different sensations.

But it would be interesting to have one lifelike sex bot that is programmable, can move smoothly, change speeds, even used oral ....
(Can you tell that I'm extremely horny today)

Yes I know the hookup guys are basically a doll with a dick, but this way I wont be degraded wanting more sex, don't have to worry about sti or being beat. Its available when I am horny and not just when he's bored of masturbating.

Now if only it could massage
Or clean the house. Lol

Anyway, I will be looking at mew toys today.
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Question on a humpday'ish hump day
Posted:Jul 10, 2019 4:00 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2019 7:51 am
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The day feels like its going in slow motion and sometimes its a standstill. it's going to be one of those long weeks.

Anyway, yes I know that's two posts in one day, but the question of the day:
What is this "new to this lifestyle" even mean?

Every once in awhile I get an excited new guy my inbox or saying how excited he is to try "this lifestyle".
What friggen lifestyle is he referring to?!

Years ago I was told to on here for sex positive and kink friendly men. I was searching for a partner to explore sex, swinging, sex parties, mfm, all wknd sex, stag/vixen, wife sharing, lots of sex, then some kinky/bdsm stuffs, I was open to all sorts of sex stuffs...pretty much no holes barred and lets give it a go, game!
Then the chirping started because I was looking for someone open to developing trust with an ongoing situation (ie: my search for casual partners). I was told to look on dating sites. I was also told to look on the kink site, then they say to look on here and dating sites. Then the dating sites tell me to look on adult sites or the kink site. I even looked on "lifestyle" sites for single men. Lol

I now know there's no such thing as a lifestyle or men into developing partnerships to explore, its monogamy or nsa/anonymous hookups here in this city.

So that leaves me asking those guys "what lifestyle are you referring to?", the one where the dudes and dudettes are looking for vanilla nsa/anonymous sex?
You can pretty much find that on any standard dating site. Hookups are not a lifestyle, being single is a lifestyle choice, at least thats how I see hookups. Just low effort vanilla sex. Lol

This site hasn't been a reliable swingers site in years, not sure if its even marketed that way anymore.

What is this "lifestyle" that seemingly many are excited about?

I do ask them what they are looking for and its basically nsa/anonymous sex, the same you find on the dating sites. Is that really something to be excited about? Especially since I may orgasm 40% of the time if lucky...
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Humpday'ish
Posted:Jul 10, 2019 12:51 pm
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2019 9:17 pm
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Another day in paradise
Horny as fuck, sexual frustrated, and my mind is in overdrive because I keep coming across men in real life that I find very attractive.
Maybe I'm just ovulating Most likely...

At any rate, of course I flip through the dating site but don't want to bother with the attractive men on there (thats men I perally find attractive and not necessarily conventionally attractive). As much as I really really need new sex partners, I just can't bring myself over the hump of bad dates to give the benefit of the doubt to new men. Like I said before, ptsd post traumatic stress from dating.. The sex the tried to explain to me that some men still enjoy sex with older women, and that some men over 40 still have active sex drives. Obviously I know of men over 40 that are sexually active with women over 40 (shocker I know right), but I really wonder about whats left in the dating pool.

Yes I know #NotAll yada yada yada
I'm just thinkin about my success rate, and luck, and yes I'm the common denominator so of course I work through why things didn't work out. Obviously it's my people picker thats broken, but how on earth do you fix that Especially if you categorize everything then just use checkboxes, frack you would eliminate the majority of the male population available to me. Lol. For which I already have a base set of red flags and hell nos,

I don't know
When you are limited to online searching just be prepared for the soul crushing feel, especially when people go on n on about how many women have full inboxes. Lol

Ah I know...it's the new steel toe leathers I'm breaking in this week. 🙄

I need a new sex the one that isn't attractive and younger than me.
Then maybe they will understand where I'm coming from.

Anyway,
I'm still horny, and it's best I avoid men for the rest of the afternoon lest thier masculine scent passes by and sets my hormones on fire.
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Hakuna'matatas
Posted:Jul 8, 2019 7:24 pm
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2019 10:46 pm
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Insert lion king music

Anyway, lets see
Flashing titties to get a response. Lol
Asked the ex-casual for some squirty sexytime this week. He finally obliged. 🙄
But when you crave thick cock on your tongue you gotta do what you gotta do.


But ya, searching for a regular sexytime friend that is capable of hanging on occasion (like go fishing, or hiking, or the movies, or whatever)... lets just say I had a good chuckle at who was looking at my dating profile.
Unfortunately you have to search for someone open to a fulltime relationship just to see if he would be open to a casual partners in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. Meaning the trust would be there but we dont need to see each other fulltime.

Back to the tits, least I don't need a bewb job anytime soon. A nice tummy tuck would be great though to close the split in my midline, ( yah bearing).
But that kinda thing is for extra funny moola $$ that I just dont have.

Come on lotto win!
Momma needs a date, a good fuckin, a new midline, and of course...
New truck or a vintage truck would be cool too.. or the '56 Bel air

Enjoy the Moanday
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Sinday coffee
Posted:Jul 7, 2019 10:12 am
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2019 9:00 pm
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It's a cool day in the badlands and while I'm sitting here enjoying my coffee a hot thought crossed my mind, ya no surprises there.

I have been thinking on the hotter side of sex, yanno, prolonging the pleasurable experience by edging, playfully slowing down the moment.
Yes I know guys want to bust a nut as quick as they can but I find this very hot with the right willing partner.



But it also crossed my mind, what do you do to keep yourself from nutting real quick?

Any cool down methods?
How do you slow down enough to not cum too soon but keep yourself on the edge?
Do you unfortunately have trouble with slowing down and then going too soft and the sex is no longer able to happen. Or do you have no problem diving in and eating a woman out to help prolong the pleasures?

Myself
I used to edge for 35 mins easily, but then I could do multiple orgasms over a long session. I have done masturbation shows for lovers and partners, and its always best when they dont get weirded out by it. Lol.
Some days I miss the fun playful times, but they became rare to find...plus I had to deal with excessive masturbation.
But for me the control and cooling down became a challenge where I wanted to see how long I could go and how hard the orgasms could be.
Cool down would be to think of something instead of focusing on the pleasure, sometimes paired with taking the direct stimulation away. Sometimes it would take me actually just getting up and totally distracting myself with something like dishes or laundry. Lol

So anyway, I need to make brunch and get on with a few fence repairs today.
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Friday's question
Posted:Jul 5, 2019 12:39 pm
Last Updated:Jul 8, 2019 10:23 am
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Do you need to see the chicks face when you watch porn?

I’m wondering if you want to watch porn where you can see the full body/face, or if you still enjoy anonymity with close ups of their body?


When I used to cam I would often get requests to see my face, which was akways answered with a big fuck no. Its a small town and my dating pool for 00km is already tainted because I am online and used to do more explicit things, plus I didn't want to lose my cam audience because they have to judge my hotness by my face instead of just enjoying the show. 🙄

Yes I know the face is really really important to the 99% out there, but is it really that important when you just jerking one off?

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