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Scammers looking for money mules..wtf?  

bitchkitty2017 71F
2245 posts
8/9/2019 6:34 am
Scammers looking for money mules..wtf?


Ok so this story came across google on my phone lately so i did read before posting on here ..seems that scammers are choosing dating sites more and more these days looking for a slick way to send or transfer money , laundering for illegal purposes ..
There are lots of boxes to tick off these days on most date sites that one has to go thru so that way your preferences dont get misconstrued ...Gay, hetero,tall, short tolerant ,beard eye color etc...now there is another box popping up that you can tick off the rising trend for suitors to check " mule " ....lol the latest trend now is finding someone who wants to be that mule ...laundering money or run drugs for those who dont want to get hands dirty by doing it themselves..Growing list of scammers are looking for those who are looking for romance .
What a better way of scamming someone than the ones looking for romance , love , intimacy or just sex..
There is an online Crime Complaint Center run by the FBI who has been dealing in large numbers of girls and boys who frequent date sites just trying to fins these mules who have lost in love and romance ..they will chat you up and make you feel like you are the only one on Earth just to hook and crook you into believing that..the bomb is dropped very subtly about helping them out with money problems..and of course promising you love and devotion forever and if you truly love them you would do this for them...
In 2017 there were 15,000 complaints filed with the FBI alleging that they were victims of romance crimes and reporting a staggering 211 million ....that count skyrocketed in 2018 by more than 70% and over 18,000 complaints filed.a reported 362 million in losses..Regardless of age the scammers have no specific choice as to whom they try to scam.Mostly widows, widowers , seniors/elderly are targeted..
First thing on the scammers agenda is to romance and show unusual interest in the victim and then they earn the trust of the intended victim ..people fall for this so easy most people who frequent date sites are lonely and feel that they have hope when the scammer tells them what they want to hear..next they fabricate a story about money as the scammers whole intent is to make money no matter how long it takes ...the story most generally involves an inheritance and the only way they can claim it is to pay a lawyer to travel to where the inheritance is stored safely in a pretend bank..but they dont have the money to ay a lawyer ...they ask for money telling the victim that they will pay double or triple money back..
They also need to make a bank account or have you make arrangements to transfer that inheritance into your account and send them that back of course you keeping the amount they promised in the first place....
**** Personal note here and opinion...
I been on several date sites over the last year and a half and have had numerous conversations with men who are money scammers..They are from all over the world and some put places on their profile that is near to you...but dont live there ...heard the same stories and when the money bomb drops i cut all ties ...I dont feel as if i have to pay for romance even if the guy is real...I did on one occasion give one guy my cell no..and that number was hacked by him and my computer was hacked ....only thing he didnt get which was way more important than anything was my banking info...It cost me 350.00 to get my computer cleaned and my phone back to rights...So i caution you if that special someone asks for money report them ...you are being targeted

bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 6:35 am

How much money would you spend on romance?


Boredfitgent5 45M

8/9/2019 6:46 am

This is a good read. I have come across a number of scammers as well and it seems they are getting more and more creative. I think its important for people to protect themselves.


SexxayBBC 32M

8/9/2019 7:18 am

As soon as money is involved I just block the user right away.
I almost got scammed hard from one of them when I was in my early 20s. Was lonely and thought this girl really liked me. Ended up scamming me blackmailing me and almost took my funds from my card which the bank noticed and blocked it.

Was lucky then and stupid won't fall for it now. Blackmailing part when I was told that she would send it to family and friends on facebook I just posted a huge announcement. Got a lot of support after that.


scoupe42 60M

8/9/2019 8:15 am

The are lots of bad people out there!


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
8/9/2019 8:39 am

It's not just on the net... we had one locally in the UK....

A conman who posed as a Swiss banker and MI6 spy has pleaded guilty to swindling his ex-girlfriend out of £300,000.

Mark Acklom, 45, duped divorcee Carolyn Woods into lending him her life savings for renovation work at a number of properties he owned after promising to marry her.

He then left her penniless and suicidal when he vanished with the money she loaned him.

Ms Woods said: "I was in love with him. But I wasn't in love with the man I know him to be now. I was in love with the man he created."


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
8/9/2019 8:49 am

Keep your personal stuff VERY private when on the internet and your phone. Once it's hacked it's hell getting it back

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lurch4040 55M
11 posts
8/9/2019 9:48 am

it's so bad


Notaname99 64M  
568 posts
8/9/2019 11:17 am

I have run into a few on here as well. Apparently it is rather common.


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 11:52 am

    Quoting Boredfitgent5:
    This is a good read. I have come across a number of scammers as well and it seems they are getting more and more creative. I think its important for people to protect themselves.
I dont think i have on here but then again i chat with some not many and when i get messages from far away its not for me...it does no good for me to make an effort because of my disability to get involved with anyone not local ...but again local does as well ..not so much but they are everywhere..Thanks


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 11:53 am

    Quoting  :

Thanx and yes from the messages we chatted i know you are one of the guys who is as fustrated as most who get messages from scammers thanx again Bob nice chat .


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 11:55 am

    Quoting SexxayBBC:
    As soon as money is involved I just block the user right away.
    I almost got scammed hard from one of them when I was in my early 20s. Was lonely and thought this girl really liked me. Ended up scamming me blackmailing me and almost took my funds from my card which the bank noticed and blocked it.

    Was lucky then and stupid won't fall for it now. Blackmailing part when I was told that she would send it to family and friends on facebook I just posted a huge announcement. Got a lot of support after that.
yep you said it as soon as money comes into the chat then feet do your duty and get away..sorry you had to go through that but lesson learned...good luck


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 11:57 am

    Quoting scoupe42:
    The are lots of bad people out there!
Yes there are and sadly everyone has the money thing going on and the saddest part is we work for our bread and butter to feed our families and scammers or bad people steal it ..thanks hon...


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 11:59 am

    Quoting seems6666:
    It's not just on the net... we had one locally in the UK....

    A conman who posed as a Swiss banker and MI6 spy has pleaded guilty to swindling his ex-girlfriend out of £300,000.

    Mark Acklom, 45, duped divorcee Carolyn Woods into lending him her life savings for renovation work at a number of properties he owned after promising to marry her.

    He then left her penniless and suicidal when he vanished with the money she loaned him.

    Ms Woods said: "I was in love with him. But I wasn't in love with the man I know him to be now. I was in love with the man he created."
I know and its all part of stealing what people work for hard all of their lives just just to feed and put a roof over the families...i did read about a few of the scams going on there...sad to think ppl are that bad ..thanx hon for the input


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 12:00 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Keep your personal stuff VERY private when on the internet and your phone. Once it's hacked it's hell getting it back
yeah i hear ya sister wont do that again ..i have a new phone now and dont give the number out to anyone anymore cept family and close friends...


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 12:01 pm

It is bad and i know first hand when my phone got hacked the softwear people showed me 16 pages of calls and interaction that my phone was used to make ...it was staggering to see..not great i dont give it out any more...


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/9/2019 12:05 pm

    Quoting Notaname99:
    I have run into a few on here as well. Apparently it is rather common.
i dont think i ever had but then again i dont answer any messages from far away the international locations are more apt to be those scammers ..i think they are infiltrating all places so everyone must be aware..i am going to do an additional blog stating some things i know to watch for...thanx


RyuFujin 56F  
1445 posts
8/9/2019 9:02 pm

Oh I could write a book on this here... yeah, I've had two attempts on me in the past. Not from here, but from The Fishy Site. It seems that is the site where catfishers and scammers cut their bullshit techniques on people before going on to more widely used online dating platforms.

Examples: one was "in the military", or so he claimed. We had established a phone number connection after the online one, and had been texting for quite a while when he pulled the "I need you to hold X amount of money for me until I come home/can collect it".

RED ALERT! "Danger, Will Robinson! DANGER!"

I told him I didn't feel comfortable doing that, and didn't think it was an all-around good idea like he proposed to begin with. Of course he immediately backpedaled, got nasty towards me (insert colorful metaphors here), and cut all communication with me after that.

Second one was "more local to my area", and "an engineer as a job", but again... so he claimed. Having an attempted scam the first time made me very suspicious of this second one. I did my own research on where he said he lived, which looked pretty legit, but I played it cool and talked casually with him for a few weeks. We exchanged phone numbers, and again I researched that. But the area code for the number he gave me didn't fit the area he said he lived in. It did fit a few other states, which is possible, and it also fit a few other countries. Hmm... very interesting

So I trusted my instincts and *played along*. How stupid does this one think I am... ?(hee hee)
In casual conversation via text, I mentioned that I had to cut our talk short, and needed to go to the store. He immediately dropped into the iTunes Gift Card scam: "Since you're going to the store, can you get me an iTunes gift card worth X amount? I'll pay you back; I need it to finish my job (yadda yadda yadda).."

Told this one, "Anyone can walk into any supermarket and get that; you don't *need me to buy one for you*. They're generally sold by the registers, you can use cash, and a five year old can buy one. Nothing special needed to get one."

I may be a blonde, but I'm not stupid. My blonde is from a bottle, BTW.

Of course, the back peddling started. He tried to attempt a blackmail on me, by resending the adult pictures of myself that I send him, back to me. Just the pics, no text accompanying them.

I said, "Am I supposed to feel threatened by this? Don't forget, I have naked pics of *you* as well. Threatening me would be a BIG mistake; I can post your pics all over the web just as easily as you can. How do you think your boss would react to seeing your naked body parts in a public forum, eh? Do not think for one moment that this is, or will ever be, intimidating me."

Blocked, on both phone and site, and profile reported to site admin. Checked on the perpetrator next day, and of course his profile had disappeared. Admin didn't send me any notice about the report, so I'm not even sure they actually saw it, let alone did anything.

There are ways to recognize the BS artists right away, and there are things you can say that will trip them into giving themselves and their true intentions away. They are EVERYWHERE. In every online dating site, or app, and now they've even infiltrated into FB. No place is sacred anymore, it seems...

Long story short-- no money was lost on my part, from either attempts. Only things lost were a bit of pride and trust. There are some good, true, and trustworthy people out there, and it requires a bit of more investigative work at times. However, when in doubt, trust your instincts and ask very specific questions.


"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.


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