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moos106_7 52M
33 posts
12/22/2018 10:00 pm

 You're very correct in these last two blogs. I've not been messaging on here lately as I've opted to go standard for the time being, but on other sites in the last year when I've reached out to make contact, I've run into bots, catfish scams, cam girls who offer to meet if you give their "agent" $150 and girls looking for a sugar daddy and a couple of real women, one of whom quickly went into stalker mode. Having seen how hostile guys get when they are shut down by a woman on "vanilla" social media, I can only imagine the level of asshole-ness that are seen on here and other sites where sex is the reason everyone has signed on.

As much as I'd like to open conversations with more than "Would you care to chat?" I use it because I think it's a good, non-threatening opening to a chat that can lead wherever. If the profile happens to have something that gets my attention I may ask a direct question, but - thanks to the guys who've taken things too far - a lot of women aren't putting things like their occupations or outside interests that could be talked about in their profiles. The generic opening line isn't ideal, but when the "About Me" section says "Just ask," a shot in the dark is sometimes all you can do.


Sirupee 36M

12/22/2018 11:23 pm

 What's your advice on sending IM's? I generally start with a super generic greeting. 1. Because I'm not a paying member so I havr limited profile information, and 2. Because I'm often just trying to shoot the shit a little


clittywhisperer1 59M
1415 posts
12/23/2018 12:24 am

 I find almost no one in America can properly communicate via computer .It is too anonymous ,No important feedback i.e. facial expression , body language , tone of voice , laughter can be received .Those are critical pieces of information to correct communication of ideas, attitudes, feelings, concepts etc. The machine has just screwed it all up for speed and volumn .It is like an italian high performance car vs a chevy . No comparison ,One is art ,clearly crafted with skill and passion, and the other slammed out of a cookie cutter mold at lowest cost to acceptable performance . I usually save time by pre -rejecting myself .I am a considerate guy .lol I find something non boring and a bit unique while including something from her profile along with humor can cut the crap a bit .There are few who have the time , inclination , ability or desire to communicate properly anymore .It is a sad road we are on . best wishes for a fine holiday season ,merry Christmas ,happy New Year .


IVFalternative 53M
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630 posts
12/23/2018 1:02 am
    Quoting moos106_7:
    You're very correct in these last two blogs. I've not been messaging on here lately as I've opted to go standard for the time being, but on other sites in the last year when I've reached out to make contact, I've run into bots, catfish scams, cam girls who offer to meet if you give their "agent" $150 and girls looking for a sugar daddy and a couple of real women, one of whom quickly went into stalker mode. Having seen how hostile guys get when they are shut down by a woman on "vanilla" social media, I can only imagine the level of asshole-ness that are seen on here and other sites where sex is the reason everyone has signed on.

    As much as I'd like to open conversations with more than "Would you care to chat?" I use it because I think it's a good, non-threatening opening to a chat that can lead wherever. If the profile happens to have something that gets my attention I may ask a direct question, but - thanks to the guys who've taken things too far - a lot of women aren't putting things like their occupations or outside interests that could be talked about in their profiles. The generic opening line isn't ideal, but when the "About Me" section says "Just ask," a shot in the dark is sometimes all you can do.
Making mention of something in their profile shows that you read it and that your message is individually written. You don't have to say anything insightful, it will still increase how many responses you get
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